I loved this exploration of the essentials of touch. I struggle with this because I toggle in between needing/craving solitude and also wanting/craving touch. And some days I teeter totter so I’m sure my signals are in flux and my kids/husband aren’t always sure how to “dance with me” on any given day.
The eating thing, though. Yup. That tracks for me. I’m an emotional eater for sure so in trying to be more conscious about why I’m turning and returning to food I started asking, “what are you hungry for right now?” Often, it’s not the actual food I’m putting in my mouth, it’s the lack of connection - loneliness or boredom. Trying to be more conscious of that. I like the simple suggestion of asking for a hug. And how that can unfold into its own nightly habit of connection. Small moments of intimacy can be really impactful. Thanks for this piece! I really enjoyed it.
Ah thanks Allison, and I hear you too about the need for space and the need for connection... I've had to remember they're not mutually exclusive. The food (and wine!) thing I think is true for many of us... Here's to more hugs though!!
I loved this exploration of the essentials of touch. I struggle with this because I toggle in between needing/craving solitude and also wanting/craving touch. And some days I teeter totter so I’m sure my signals are in flux and my kids/husband aren’t always sure how to “dance with me” on any given day.
The eating thing, though. Yup. That tracks for me. I’m an emotional eater for sure so in trying to be more conscious about why I’m turning and returning to food I started asking, “what are you hungry for right now?” Often, it’s not the actual food I’m putting in my mouth, it’s the lack of connection - loneliness or boredom. Trying to be more conscious of that. I like the simple suggestion of asking for a hug. And how that can unfold into its own nightly habit of connection. Small moments of intimacy can be really impactful. Thanks for this piece! I really enjoyed it.
Ah thanks Allison, and I hear you too about the need for space and the need for connection... I've had to remember they're not mutually exclusive. The food (and wine!) thing I think is true for many of us... Here's to more hugs though!!