This hit me right in the chest. I'm 42 and just went through a divorce and I had one of those clearing moments too. Except mine was the coffee. I'd been buying his brand for twelve years and one day I just stood in the grocery aisle and thought... why am I still doing this? The shed, the greenhouse, the trampoline. I get it. It's not really about the stuff. It's about finally giving yourself permission to stop maintaining someone else's life. Thank you for writing this.
ah thank you. and yes… it’s about clearing out the old/ outdated/ wasn’t mine anyway and making room for what’s mine now. About the coffee- i was just talking to a client yesterday who is going through a divorce and i was telling her there is not an inch of this house that now looks the same as it did when my ex husband lived here. it took time (started with my bedroom) but it’s my house now and every inch shows me. im so glad it resonated and enjoy trying lots of new coffees!
This hit me right in the chest. I'm 42 and just went through a divorce and I had one of those clearing moments too. Except mine was the coffee. I'd been buying his brand for twelve years and one day I just stood in the grocery aisle and thought... why am I still doing this? The shed, the greenhouse, the trampoline. I get it. It's not really about the stuff. It's about finally giving yourself permission to stop maintaining someone else's life. Thank you for writing this.
ah thank you. and yes… it’s about clearing out the old/ outdated/ wasn’t mine anyway and making room for what’s mine now. About the coffee- i was just talking to a client yesterday who is going through a divorce and i was telling her there is not an inch of this house that now looks the same as it did when my ex husband lived here. it took time (started with my bedroom) but it’s my house now and every inch shows me. im so glad it resonated and enjoy trying lots of new coffees!
Turning 51 this week so this is perfectly timed. I'm going to think this over.
Brilliant.... and happy birthday!
What a thoughtful and insightful message-thank you for sharing.
Thank you Connie... birthdays sometimes sharpen the mental meanderings!